Every year, on our wedding anniversary, we go back to the garden where we were married. This is one of the prettiest, quietest places I know. I’m glad we chose this place to get married instead of a reception centre, because we can come back any time we want and take a few quiet moments to reflect on what’s happened since that special day.
One thing I always notice is how the garden has grown and changed over the previous year. On our wedding day for example, there weren’t a lot of flowers in the garden, which is more in keeping with the traditional Japanese style. But these days, the curators plant lots of pretty flowers, I think because that is what people expect when they visit a manicured garden.
I am also reminded of how our family has changed and our relationships have matured over the year. The children are growing up and becoming more independent and my husband and I are beginning to feel we can finally take some time out for our relationship and our own interests. Raising a family has required us to find limitless patience and love for both our children and each other.
When you first get together with your partner, it’s the big moments that you remember: the first kiss, the proposal, buying a house. Over the long term however, it’s the small moments of care and affection that start to matter more: a cuddle when you get home from work, sharing a cup of tea, flowers on Valentine’s Day.
A family tradition doesn’t have to be elaborate or expensive. It can be as simple as visiting the same place or making the same special dish on a certain day of the year. Then, you’ll have a milestone, a way of marking the progress along the shared road of your lives.
What are your family traditions?
PS: Recently I promised to share my Tips for Language Learning Success. It’s coming! We’ve had a lot of rainy weather recently, so I’m waiting for a clear day to take the photos. 🙂